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Why is life so hard?

Struggle is a part of life.  It is through struggles and challenges that we grow.  I’m sure that you’ve heard the clichés, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, “No pain no gain”, “You learn more from your mistakes than from your successes.”

Pain should be used as a catalyst for change.  Sometimes you need a little discomfort to get you to sit down and examine what it is you really want and what you need to change.  The challenge could be financial, it could be related to problems at work or it could be a conflict in a personal relationship.  I have one of my favorite poems on the wall in my kitchen and I read it often.

Don’t Quit
When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow –
You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out –
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how near you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit –
It’s when things seem worst that
You must not Quit.
Author Unknown

Accept the challenges when life tests you.  Keep your struggles in perspective.  Recognize them as opportunities to set new goals and find new ways to achieve your goals.  Professor Randy Pausch from “The Last Lecture” says that brick walls are there to show us how badly we want something.  Don’t let today’s obstacles keep you from realizing your dreams of tomorrow.

10 Responses to “Why is life so hard?”

  1. Rich says:


    The book is available now. You can order it at Amazon.com or directly on my web site at http://www.AHandbookForLife.com. Anyone who orders it on my website will receive an autographed copy if they request it.

    Keep living up to the challenges in your life.

  2. Andrew says:

    The soundness of your advice is uncanny. You truly present a remarkable and simplistic approach to life, one that has made a real impression on me. You undoubtedly live out your strategy towards life; You not only talk the talk, but walk the walk. I look forward to seeing your book on a shelf near me!

  3. Lindsay says:

    You have taught me so much I’m thrilled you are sharing your wisdom with the world!!!!!


  4. Ric Caponi says:


    Thanks for taking time to share. Todays ‘have it now’ culture is one that truly tests us everyday, and without a peaceful diversion this life can become very scary, very quickly.

    Thanks for passing your wisdom on!

  5. Lynda Bennett says:

    You hit the nail on the head! I love to read this stuff, but rarely make the effort to take advantage of what I’ve learned. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of doing the same ole thing, even if it doesn’t make us happy.

    Please do keep me posted on the seminars and definitely the book as I’d love to read it!

    Good luck to you as it sounds like you are doing something very special that can really make a difference in someone(s) lives.

  6. Brian Rubin says:


    Having known you all my life, it is no surprise that you have found your inner peace and reconciled all the moving parts in a dynamic and ever changing world. Your array of life experiences and diverse skill sets have positioned you help others on their journey to self awareness and contentment.

  7. Rich says:

    Nancy, you are so right. Life is a gift and you are blessed to recognize that. Sometimes when we are stressed though, we wonder why the gift was given to us. It’s important to acknowledge the gift as well as rise to the challenge when things get tough. Keep up your positive attitude.

  8. Nancy Streetman says:

    Here is a great quote from Eleanor Roosevelt: “A woman is like a teabag. You don’t know how strong she is until she is in hot water.” I have been in hot water a few times in my life and I can honestly say that I met the challenges with strength. I don’t believe life is a test. It is a gift. I have led a blessed and charmed life. I feel very fortunate.

  9. Bill Loelius says:

    I know Rich personally and he practices what he preaches-with great results! I like his saying that we are “too blessed to be stressed”.

  10. Many of us these days need encouragement. Thanks Rich for the reminder that whatever the circumstances “Pain should be a catalyst for change” I’ll look forward to your next blog!